I was in a six year relationship that recently ended. I have decided that I am gonna do something different, if and when, I decide to get in another relationship. The reasoning is that if I do something different, then the outcome will be different. I made a list of 10.
#2. Objectivity- I will listen to her, openly, honestly, and objectively. The same way I listen to my friends. Acceptance is the key to understanding her. I'll use it as a buffer for tension and especially resentments. I won't take anything personally. I'll give her the right to have different opinions. The right to disagree with me. I don't want to control anyone's feelings. Especially the one that I love.
It's gonna be tough, but it will be worth it. I hope she thinks so. That's just my opinion though, and who the hell am I?
Saturday, May 2, 2009
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"It's gonna be tough" must simply be the understatement of the year since you have declared yourself as "giving her the RIGHT to have different opinions" and "the RIGHT to disagree" with you.
Nope, didn't sound the least bit controlling at all!! NOT!!
Better take another stab at objectivity, my brutha, or at the very least, realize that women have had rights long before you have taken it upon yourself to administer those RIGHTS to her, especially the one that you love.
"It's gonna be tough, but it will be worth it."
It may be tough for her to decide if your worth it. If this is "something different" from the last relationship maybe you still need to evaluate some more....you sound more controlling than you care to admit, just an observation. You can take it, leave it, or let it fly!
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