Monday, March 2, 2009
Have any of you just found yourself irritated with another human being, so much so, that you want to avoid that person? Even when you see or hear their name, you get a sick feeling in your stomach? In those instances, I think you must begin to ask yourself, "Why?" Initially, your answer will come back with a very superficial surface answer like: He/She is so dumb or He/She is just annoying or He/She just irks me. This is the time when you have to dig a little deeper than that; unless you just want that feeling to hang around. You have to ask yourself what, specifically, about this person seems dumb, annoying, or irritating. A true annoyance or irritation is something that you cannot ignore. If you can't ignore it/him/her then maybe this annoyance or irritation is a secondary feeling. Maybe the fact that something can't be ignored by you, indicates that there is an unresolved issue that needs addressed. The idea that you can be annoyed by something or someone that you don't care about is complete crap. You can only be bothered by what you allow to bother you. So you should be asking yourself, "Why am I letting this bother me?" DON"T BE AFRAID OF THE ANSWER! You may find out that you have feelings that you never thought were there, or that you don't have feelings that should be there, or maybe even that you have an opinion that needs expressed or gotten off your chest. When you decide that an annoyance be shooed away like a fly, you dismiss a portion of your natural intuition and start to stunt your own Emotional & Mental growth. It like you lose points from your Emotional & Mental IQ. When you get that feeling, start to ask questions. When you start to ask questions, answer them honestly; and when you get honest answers, don't apply those to a judgment or generalization. Use those honest answers to find similarities between yourself and the person/problem/situation. That is how true progress is made. Through commonalities not differences. If you understand yourself, you'll understand others better. Espeially, when you find out how much they are like you. But you have to look for the similarities, not the differences. Differences are easy to spot. Similarities take a keen eye. This will make your outlook on others and your ability to understand; substantially better. But that's just my opinion though, and who the hell am I?